When you sleep with a guy before you really know him, it’s easy for him to assume that any other guy could have done it. When you sleep with him after getting to know who he truly is, he believes that you slept with him because of how amazing he is and that you wouldn’t have given in so easily if it were any other guy. See the distinction?

As for my friend, I tried helping her get back on track but their relationship had sunk too deep into the booty call zone and couldn’t be resuscitated. She tried to not see him unless it was on a date (and he found ways to dodge that and was only free when he could come over for sex and was always too busy when she suggested an activity), she didn’t reply to his sexts, and she tried to learn more about him, but nothing worked and eventually he just faded away into the abyss.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long should you wait to sleep with someone? If you want a relationship with this person, wait until he has shown he is invested in you and genuinely cares about you. Remember, the quantity of dates is meaningless, it’s the quality of the time spent together that matters.

On average, how many dates do people go on before they sleep together? That really depends, but not very many!

Do guys lose respect if you sleep with them? No, I wouldn’t say they lose respect per se. They may lose interest, but usually a guy who loses interest after sex wasn’t really all that interested in the first place. Maybe he liked you… but didn’t like you enough. Read more